New policy: The first rule of baby sleep is you DO NOT talk about baby sleep.
Because the minute you talk about baby sleep, baby will CHANGE HOW SHE SLEEPS. I bragged to ONE person--not even a parent, just a normal person--that Boo had been sleeping eleven hours straight at night…and she promptly stopped. She also, just for fun, stopped with the blissful and surprising two hour morning naps and now just does an hour which is exactly enough time for me to fall asleep or start something fun or…clean, I guess. But not enough time to REALLY have any free time or REALLY do anything at all. Basically, I have enough time to read the internet and then she’s UP and giggling.
Look at me breaking the first rule already.
If she had her way, her ladyship Boo would be held all the time when she sleeps…which is just precious, of course, but we want to instill good habits and not suffocate her with our pillows by accident and whatnot, so we have the following “SLEEP ROUTINE” (the internet says it’s very important to have a sleep routine) in place:
1. Boo looks tired.
2. Feed Boo boobs
3. Snuggle Boo with binky
4. Remove binky and continue snuggling
5. Try to put down Boo (pretend you’re going to put her to sleep on her back but gently encourage her to roll onto her stomach where she immediately takes on “child’s pose” with her baby booty in the air. Pat pat booty and run away silently)
6. ½ the time Boo wakes up crying
7. Repeat previous steps
8. If not successful, turn on projector playing classical music and walk away. She usually stops crying and puts herself to sleep in under three minutes.
9. If not, call in Doctor Daddy who is always successful in under ten minutes. If he is not home or willing, start over.
10. She will be asleep within…five minutes to three hours and will stay asleep for one to eleven hours.
Did you know that babies aren’t consistent? Or, rather, mine isn’t…I’m sure there are clockwork babies out there who do everything the same all the time and you can just live your life predictably and I’m sure your house is also very clean and you also work full time saving people’s lives or money or something.
During the day, she’s nearly a person lately. She makes yummy noises when she eats people food and can clap her hands and crawl and stand up and pet (grab) the kitty. She’s no longer just a squish of tears and poop. For funsies, we looked up her horoscope and, I gotta say, she is pretty much living up to it as much as a baby can. Aries are independent, driven, energetic, aggressive. If you ever get the chance to witness Boo versus Catdome, you will agree.
But at night, The Creature emerges. I’m not saying The Creature is bad, it’s just…not quite a person. Ever since she was a tiny squish, nighttime Boo has been more bug than human. When she was little, she had a green, Velcro swaddle that made her look just exactly like a larva. And that’s what she was: squirmy body and a mouth, sucking the life force from me to sustain her. Her night time cry is not like that of a day time baby. It’s fetus-like, impulsive, and unemotional. It’s just id. It’s just want: hold me, feed me, I feel alone, make me feel less alone. The Creature doesn’t know she’s a person. The Creature still thinks she and I are the same person.
The Creature is the cutest and the sweetest. She is all mouth, no eyes. Give her the binky and she immediately is subdued. Give her the nook of my arm, and she shakes her head into it and her whole body relaxes. And her little squish face is the most placid thing you’ll ever see. Such a different face from that of the person emerging in the day time. In the day time, she’s expressive and opinionated and not a little bit judgey. At night, she’s just soft eyes, petal lips slightly parted.
The Creature does not care about my emotions or needs and I can’t blame her. She doesn’t care that it’s inconvenient for me to sit upright, nuzzling her at all hours. The Creature requires sleep. The Creature does not find things funny, only cold or scary or displeasing or, eventually, acceptable.
Sometimes I feel embittered toward The Creature because she occasionally sprouts a tooth and that means she must be held at all times. But then I tell myself, stop. Look at this little thing. Soon she will change into something else entirely. The larva will hatch or whatever bugs do, and she will be her own person in both the day and night. She won’t reach for you with desperation, her eyes pinched tight, knowing you’re there because you’re always there, just waiting to be received in your arms. Soon she will grow up.
The greatest wish you can wish for your kid is that they’ll grow up. As much as we want to plead with them to stay little, you want them to move on with their lives, to be free. To develop new skills and get big and tall. To fly like a beautiful butterfly or some cliché like that.
The Creature is okay by me.
The Creature is awake.
This larva looked cute.